Overtired, Hangry (Hungry + Angry), fussy, whinny, and played out.. I’m talking about the mamas out there who, like myself, get overwhelmed by the blessing of a child that God has given them. This is for the mom, who like me, love and enjoy their kids but sometimes feel like you’re drowning in mundaneness, routines and patterns, and chores.
Changing diapers, dishes, laundry, grocery lists, naptime, toys, and the list goes on. As a mom, there is so much responsibility and so much to do.
I know for me, between the clutter and scheduled nap times, I get easily overwhelmed. I don’t do well with disorganization , but I don’t always have time to get to having the “picture perfect” home. My anxiety flares up when Andrew (my son) creates a mess on the kitchen floor, is too fussy to wait for me to clean it up, then goes to the den and spreads his toys everywhere, then moves on to making a mess in his room.. however, I’m learning, a time will come where he’ll wind down (nap time, bedtime) and these are times I can get a lot of my cleaning and decluttering done.
Tip #1: embrace the mess
I’m learning to let the mess be until I can get to it. My husband is pretty understanding, I just need to show myself more grace.
what about when you’re feeling unappreciated? I mean let’s face it, when your kids are young, especially, they can’t really express appreciation, at least in ways were used to.
sometimes i get flustered and it gets worse when I feel as though my efforts at motherhood are not being noticed. I’m not speaking as a wife but more as a mother. Babies can’t show, in ways that we often recognize, such as verbal praise or gifts or affirmations.
However, when I slow down, I realize, baby boy does give me plenty of praises and thanks.
Tip #2: slow down, pay Attention.
The praises and thanks are there. Whether it be a hug, a kiss , a smile, or a happy baby; to me, this means job well done mom.
Even if they’re too young to show these signs, just knowing my worth as a mother, Christ-ordained, I can get my affirmations from him. Looking to the Word (the Bible) to show me I’m a good mama as long as I’m doing my best to do as HE has called me to do.
Feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders mama? But to prideful to ask for help? Or just feel as if since this is your job as mommy, you have to suck it up and roll with the punches? I feel like that all too often. But…
Tip #3: ask for help
One of my biggest mistakes this first time around was not utilizing the resources around me. Whether that be hubby, mother in law, sisters, etc.
asking for help during this second pregnancy (almost at the end- 8 months) while parenting my almost 11 month year old has been a God-send.
You DONT HAVE TO BE SUPERMOM. It’s okay to need help, it’s what makes you human.
I love my village, not all pictured above.
The other overwhelming blessing: the new home.
The other blessing which God has so graciously bestowed, it was ALL God because it’s no way we could’ve made THIS happen on our own, has been overwhelming, to say the least.
There was so much remodeling we had to do, and it took a LONG time (to me it seemed so long but everyone tells me it wasn’t that long- only 1 and a half months).
It was painting, cleaning, new blinds, new bathrooms, new furniture, running back and forth with an infant to make sure contractors are on schedule, delivering bad news to hubby when contractors weren’t on top of it… exhausting to say the least.
The temporary displacement
Temporarily , we (my husband and my baby boy) had to stay with my mother in law. After selling our 1 bedroom condo, and waiting for remodels to finish, we needed a place to go.
I’m so grateful to have family willing to open their homes. But it wasn’t easy. My mother in law does thing her way, and well, me and hubby do things differently.. nothing wrong with either, just different. So it was an adjustment but I learned (kinda late I’ll admit) to lean on God when frustrated or anxious.
Moving with an infant was overwhelming because he is so busy. He won’t just sit still. So as I try to unpack box by box, I still have to tend to him and play with him. Hubby is putting up light fixtures and blinds and fixing doors and things, so we’re both trying to get things done.
Once again, thank God for the village! What an awesome support to lean on when we need it.
As we unpack and prepare for our babyshower/ housewarming and baby Lauryn’s arrival, it has been chaotic and I have gotten overwhelmed.
What I learned and my advice for all mamas overwhelmed by their blessings, lean on the hands of our caring FATHER GOD.
The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit. – psalm 34:18
Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. -1 Peter 5:7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.- Philippians 4:6-7
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.- 2 Corinthians 12:9
Share your experience with me.
What do you do when you’re overwhelmed ? Who’s your village consist of?
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Until next time.